Sex and Homosexuality

Like every human phenomena or activity, sex came from somewhere and so does sexuality. With all the recent buzz going on and around homophobia, I intended to write a word on ‘Are we set for the new sex revolution?’ and ‘Why is it yet not casual?’ or other questions like that. We have arrived at or sex practices, attitudes, ethics and knowledge about sexuality from animals that preexisted and we thank the earliest life in this universe for this. But I’ve seen some very natural and traditional ideas about sex and sexuality being refuted by #modern people.

I am evident of a person who once said to a random pair of gay boys, “Don’t you know two men aren’t supposed to be together this way?”, and this is how homosexuality gets treated in my very own country. Not that I am being offensive or something, but few of us who look forward to pursuing contemporary courses in the urban spaces of our country believe in homosexuality and homo-eroticism, not all people.

It is still a very awkward reaction to lesbian or gay people Japanese macaques, fruit flies, flour beetles, albatrosses, bottlenose dolphins – these are just some of the more than 500 species in which homosexuality is observed, as Melissa Hogenboom has written for BBC. Homosexual as a word has been contrasted to the word heterosexual and that is how opposites developed. Rather, homosexual culture has answered the question “Why Sex?”. Even if we consciously agree or not, but we put up that sole reason behind having sex is procreation or reproduction. But that means homosexual do not have Whys to having sex? Obviously, they do.

Homosexuality or homo-eroticism has somehow been observed as wrong by many but is it actually? Penguins do practice homosexuality and as mentioned, we found the notions of sex and sexuality from the animals that predate us? So, why is generalizing homosexuality a problem or a point of full-stop? Like every other child in India, I have been illuminated about all the rules and ethics of sexual commitments- which are monogamous and heterosexual. I’ve never seen people talking by homosexuality casually and accepting the fact that same gender love is similar to that of what opposites experience.

Judith Butler’s Gender Trouble very conveniently portrays how gender and sex is something beyond biological anatomy or genital recognition. And homosexuality is strange because a baby being born with penis and growing up with effeminate woman like qualities is a negation. But Why? Homosexuals are just as equal to heterosexuals and our approach towards them has to be similar. They are normal human beings with normal organ systems, living a normal life of pleasure, happiness and strength. They have no “abnormality”.

Thankfully, I have seen youngsters being decent towards homosexuality and accepting the privileges of being a homosexual. At least, you know, you are not abnormal- you are just attracted to someone like you, who has the same genitals, same interests and same gender. And this has made me change my perception about what Whys of having sex could be?

Is it what we are taught? The sole purpose- reproduction ? Or is sex more than that? Whys to sex. And remember, homosexuality is not abnormal.