Cheating- A Mental Rape

Everyone has been asked once or more, “Tumne kabhi kisi se pyaar kiya?” but I don’t think the answer to this will be an enthusiastic yes when you are cheated by someone you deeply loved. Cheating, infidelity, unfaithfulness, adultery, breakup, dumping, romantic betrayal, disloyalty- whatever it may be called- it has become a toxic element, used in recent times as a device or performance or procedure to mentally rape a person. The interplay between physical consequences and emotional experience is a most debated area and cheating is one aspect of how your consequences affect your experiences.

I personally have never felt cheated or been cheated but have met people who have told their personal experiences on how it feels to be cheated. The “cheated one” is a victim left to suffer physical pain- activating the parts of the brain that harshly react to physical discomfort. Somewhere at the back of mind, it always goes on that Why do people cheat. Is there no one who respects a relationship? I believe the sense of self-blame or you know the sense of not being perfect is created in the mind of a person who is cheated. And there he becomes the negative one living a “meaningless” life (as he feels). Don’t you ever realize when you cheat you’re equal to a rapist who has taken away the virginity of thought, emotion and self-esteem from your victim?

Even if it is a relationship or a nuptial bond, there is a feeling of “social exclusion” in the victim. You feel like you have no mental power. It is embarrassing, awkward, disturbing and devaluing for the victim and it takes away all the power to think, act, perform and live. I am stunned how the factor of “humanity” has disappeared- humans do not think about humans and that is why they leave them to a scary stage of death by cheating them. There is a mental stigma and a feeling of unwanted separation from the self when you know you are the victim. It is like your whole mental peace is distorted and you feel yourself the most useless and most melancholic person on this globe. It feels like a strong punch in the tummy and it leaves you emotionally destroyed.

Has this actually become a trend to dump and cheat on your partner? There are a lot of psychological, physical, symptoms and reactions- just as a rape victim- cheating is also a mental rape. A rape that kills your from inside and kills your strength to be mentally stable. Think of your victim in the name of humanity- think of him/.her as a normal human being equivalent to you- having the same heart, the same lungs, the same organs, the same blood flowing inside. Think! Just once! Before you do it.